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How To Let Go

If you have ever struggled with fear, anxiety, anger, resentment, guilt, shame, and/or obsessions you know how challenging it can be to “Let Go.” These emotions are so toxic, yet they often cling to us like velcro.

No worries if you get tripped up—I have an easy fix for you that doesn’t involve a martini glass, and you can do this with your kids!

Letting Go is the Key to Happiness!

Holding on takes you out of the present moment and robs you of experiencing the good in life. We find all sorts of things to cling to; positions, people, jobs, relationships, addictions, obsessions, outcomes.

Letting Go is the magic ingredient most people forget to practice on their quest to work the Law of Attraction into fruition. A vision board full of dreams, aspirations, goals, and desires is useless if you fail to let go and trust the universe will provide. Holding onto any anxious energy you have surrounding your wishes and your worries will only prevent or delay the outcome you desire.

By “Letting Go” we allow space for the universe to do its thing. We free our minds from the relentless voice telling us we have missed the mark, aren’t good enough, aren’t measuring up, aren’t there yet… that we want more, need more, crave more.

It’s easy to see why we strive to let go of our worries as toxic emotions and relationships keep us stuck. But what about Letting Go of our wishes?

The answer is simple—> Letting Go is the key to happiness!

Of course, you also need a dash of gratitude and dollop of willingness…but the combination of those 3 ingredients is undoubtedly the recipe for happiness.

Letting Go, is an act of faith! Faith in the universe, God, Mother Nature…the Greater Good; whatever you chose to believe in. It doesn’t even matter what you believe in, all that matters is that you believe!

How To Let Go

I’m going to jump into this part with the ASSumption you already know how to identify what you are feeling. While that sounds like a no-brainer, it can be challenging and perplexing for some. That’s another blurb though.

This part can be as fun or no-frills as you like. The most important this is, you do it. OFTEN.

All you have to do is write down what Wishes and Worries are at the forefront of your mind, body, and soul. It doesn’t have to be a PowerPoint Presentation or Ven Diagram. You only need to write one word if you like. A feeling, the name of a person, a concern, obsession, craving, circumstance, wish, hope, dream… Just get it out, write it down, and now we are going to Let It Go. Literally and figuratively.

Ok, so this is the fun part! How you “Let It Go” can be any number of ways.

Examples of Letting Go On the Fly:

  • You are at work and you begin fantasizing about stapling a gossipy co-workers mouth shut, write said co-worker’s name down on a Post-It and put it in the shredder.
  • When visiting your in-laws’ house a judgey aunt starts force-feeding you unsolicited parenting advice, lock yourself in the bathroom for 3 minutes, write her name on a square of TP and flush it.  
  • Pulling into a parking lot after being run off the road by a crotchety, cantankerous, inconsiderate driver, park your car, jot “asshole driver” down on a gum wrapper, discard something gross into it and dispose of it. Then move onto the next part of your day.

Example of Letting Go As a Daily Practice:

Try to work this simple step into your morning routine. For even more efficacy, do it in the evenings as well.

Write Down Your Wishes and Worries On Paper.
Place Your Paper in a Jar or Box
Move on with your day…

I prefer to use paper, pens, and vessels that bring me joy when I use them, but it doesn’t have to be fancy. The Dollar Store is a great place to get small sheets of note paper, notepads, and fun pens and pencils. They also have a myriad of boxes, vases, and pots, jars, glasses and the like to choose from. For more fabulous paraphernalia, take a trip to Michaels, Hobby Lobby or a craft store.

You can use Mason Jars, candle votives, empty tissue boxes or any fun container. You can decorate and label them if you wish. If you are more religious, feel free to call your vessels a God Box or label them “Hope and Faith.” Do whatever will encourage you to practice this often.

One thing I enjoy doing is to save the notes I have written. I love reading through some the pages from the past to reflect and revel in how much has changed. Looking back on all the things I stressed out over boosts my faith when I see how things have worked out. Once I “Let Go” and let God do the work for me, things happen almost effortlessly.

 

For some, this whole concept may sound a little hokey, but I promise you that it works! I highly recommend you give it a whirl. What do you have to lose?

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