We cannot move onto greater things when we continue to hold on to what no longer serves us.
People, possessions, behaviors, beliefs, attachments, ideas… All the things that once served an important purpose in our lives become the very things that hold us back when we refuse to let them go.
There cannot be a new beginning without an end. When we let go completely, we open ourselves up to infinite possibilities.
Many of us go through life with the mindset of “when I achieve this, everything will be ok” or “when I have this, I will be happy”…” when I lose 20lbs I will feel good”.
The fact of the matter is, sometimes life and its circumstances can be pretty lackluster. We spent a lot of time in the mud, and that’s how it goes. But regardless of one’s circumstances, it is possible to grow, shine and even THRIVE in the midst of the most unfavorable situations.
It’s all about your perspective! If you are stuck in the mud, it’s time to rise up and bloom!
You “eat clean” 80% of the time, you exercise 5-7 days a week, you don’t smoke, you only drink on special occasions…you even do a 5k Turkey Trot every Thanksgiving, and you not only participate in weight-loss challenges – you CRUSH THEM every time.
Somehow though, you manage to put all the weight back on, and maybe a bonus pound or two. You KNOW how to do this healthy lifestyle thing, so what gives?!?!
BREATHE! –> You are not alone!
We live in a society that is FILLED with information and high expectations. We are doers. We see a problem, we take action, we learn how to fix it, we roll up our sleeves and go full force into “fixing it”…and we expect it to be “fixed” indefinitely.
You are not a machine…
Treating obesity as a problem to “fix” IS the problem. Being overweight is a symptom of a much larger, far more complicated issue, and lack of knowledge rarely has anything to do with it. (refer to Weight Loss Coaching for more)
If you know alcohol, cigarettes, soda, fast food, pizza, chips, fried foods, baked goods and the like are doing nothing positive for your body, but you are compelled to ingest them, chances are the root of your problem has more to do with your emotions and deep-seeded self-defeating thought processes than your intellect.
Our relationship with food begins on our first day of life. We cry. We get food. We feel better. How that relationship evolves over the course of a lifetime is very complicated. The connection between food and our emotions is powerful. We are human beings – not human doings. When you are too busy “doing” and not taking time to “be,” we accumulate decades of unprocessed feelings. We lose touch with how we feel and how to feel; this is the root of the problem.
Stuffing our faces with calorie-rich, carb-rich, sweet, salty, and fatty foods is how we keep those feelings stuffed. These foods can be just as intoxicating and mind-numbing as any pharmaceutical – they are legal, readily available, and socially acceptable. These substances provide us with the fastest, cheapest, easiest way to mentally and emotionally check-out and the consequences they afflict us with distract us from ever having to acknowledge what is taking place. It is the perfect storm for a life of self-destruction and denial.
OK, so now I know what the real problem is…
just tell me how to fix it!
Patience Grasshopper
A mind and soul filled with repressed and suppressed feelings and emotions is a dangerous place to go alone. You can’t fix your thinking with your own thinking. That is why you need a Life Coach to navigate you through this minefield and help you reach higher ground.
How is Life Coaching different than therapy?
A Life Coach doesn’t diagnose or treat disorders and diseases of the mind. Life Coaching is about honoring you as a person and your ability to heal and solve your own issues with guidance and direction – to meet you where you are and build you up to where you want to be.
You know you better than anyone else. A Life Coach can help you see things from a different perspective and walk you through the mental blocks that are holding you back from becoming the person you want to be and living the life you long to live. Coaching is about helping you actualize and set goals, develop a plan of action and support you along the way.
If you are one of those people who struggle to lose weight or keep the weight off long-term, Life Coaching may be the key to achieving and sustaining weight loss.
Addiction is a lifelong struggle. You can put the disease of addiction into remission through abstinence, but abstinence alone will never yield a happy, healthy, fulfilling life. Recovery is an ongoing process that enables one to be free from cravings, compulsions and addictive behaviors.
Treatment will get you sober, but it’s crucial to continue to work at developing and maintaining healthy coping strategies, thought processes and to overcome the default mindset that afflicts those who struggle with addiction. The reality is that no one is magically “fixed” once they complete treatment.
Sponsorship is one option that works for many in recovery; unfortunately, it isn’t always easy to find a sponsor who is available, safe, healthy and willing to devote time, energy and attention towards helping someone in recovery.
Choosing the wrong sponsor can be shattering to anyone in recovery.
Unbeknownst to many of the newly sober, how many years one has in recovery is by no means an indication of how healthy, safe and sane one is. Anyone in early sobriety is exceptionally vulnerable to engaging in unhealthy relationships, and once one has been manipulated, controlled or betrayed by a sponsor, it can compromise your recovery. Even worse is having a sponsor who relapses. Few things are more devastating to a recovering addict than having their primary support system fall so hard back into the grips of addiction.
Recovery coaching gives you a qualified, certified, stable support system to carry you through all that life throws your way—it can be the difference between sustained long-term sobriety and relapse.
