Try Different, Not Harder

July 2, 2019July 15, 2019 Kristy MoxLeave a comment

Oftentimes, when faced with a problem, we venture to solve it in a specific way. When that doesn’t work, we typically continue trying to solve the same problem in the exact same way…only harder.

We get frustrated. We try harder. We get more frustrated. We try way harder.

The whole approach is about as successful as crossing the finish line on a hamster wheel. The only way to stop is by hitting a wall.

These valiant efforts take place in all areas of our lives, including relationships. With about the same success rate as we would have trying to fix a broken object with the wrong tools. It’s like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. Sure you can roll up your sleeves, utilize a myriad of tools and apply relentless efforts to shape that square peg to fit into the round hole. However, the more fitting (pun intended) solution would be to insert said peg into its corresponding hole.

At times it is appropriate to not to give up and to try harder. More often, the better route would be to let go, embrace acceptance and surrender. Miraculously the latter approach typically yields the desired results, without such an effort.

If something doesn’t work or doesn’t flow, maybe life is trying to tell you something. There is always a lesson to be learned in every life experience. Unfortunately, it isn’t always as glaringly obvious as a flashing neon sign.

…or NOT! Brains over brawn is an underrated approach.

Sometimes, the signs are subtle.

Sometimes something not working IS the sign!

If you find yourself struggling too much—Let Go. If you are venturing down a path of insanity by unsuccessful repeated efforts, you may be taking a wrong turn.

Learn to recognize when something isn’t working. Let go, and let the path reveal itself to you. Answers and solutions emerge more clearly in the still of surrender as opposed to furious efforts.

If you are feeling stuck and the answers have not become clear to you, I would love to help you gain clarity and insight.

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Life Coaching with Kristy Mox

June 14, 2019September 12, 2023 Kristy MoxLeave a comment

This is my life’s purpose, and I am on a mission to help others reach higher ground.
~Kristy Mox

So you want to change your life, but where do you begin?

How do you pick a Life Coach?

A million self-proclaimed “Life Coaches” are crawling out of the woodwork lately, but I’m not here to talk about them.

The pond I swim in is getting muddied with newbies and self-proclaimed gurus, but I’m not one of them. I’ve got real estate here. I am confident this is my life’s purpose, and I am on a mission to help others reach higher ground.

Find Your Tribe!

You must find your tribe…and find a coach that gets you! The real you–not the person you think you should be, not the person society tells you to be…but the person you are.

When I embarked upon my journey to become a coach, options for certifications were slim to none. There was only one coach I wanted to learn from at the time: Tony Robbins. While he doesn’t refer to himself as a “Life Coach,” and he seems to be venturing down a different path these days, there is no doubt he was a master at this craft. That was where my life coaching education began. Over the years, I have been on a relentless quest to seek knowledge, skills, and experiences to build on that foundation so I can better assist my clients.

How and Why I Became a Life Coach

I can’t speak for the masses, only for myself—of my personal education and experience. For me, the calling began when I was 12. I’m not the biggest fan of reading, as I have ADHD and dyslexia, but I was compelled to purchase a book on Codependency with my very own hard-earned money. The bookstore was brand new to my local mall, and “codependency” was a relatively new phrase back then. I was certainly onto something, but I had a lot more pain and adversity in the form of raging codependency to experience and conquer.

I’ve always had jobs working with people who bare their souls to me. As a hairstylist, esthetician, make-up artist, personal trainer, nutrition coach, wellness coach, and life coach. Throughout the years I have been a confidant to all my clients. It has been an honor to listen to stories some have never shared with anyone before me. I am in awe of the courage it takes to share such things and I will carry those stories in my heart and take then to the grave!

The Jump From Listening to Helping

I reached a point where I was done with just listening and I longed to begin helping people grow into the person they are meant to be. The day I decided to begin studying for my life coaching certification, I was working as a personal trainer. I had been working with a client whose story was so moving, I couldn’t listen anymore without helping on a deeper level. I just could not bring myself to count another rep without doing something to help the person get unstuck.

The issues presented were out of my scope of practice, so I decided to expand my scope of practice! I hugged this person, provided a referral, went home, and registered for my life coaching certification. At the time I was going through a divorce—I was newly sober, painfully exhausted, and completely broke. I was determined though! I invested every cent I had, and every ounce of energy, and focus I could muster whilst raising 2 kids solo and rebuilding my life.

It’s amazing how much more energy and motivation have when we are deeply passionate about something and in alignment with what we are being called to do.

Today I am blessed to be able to share my knowledge, wisdom, experience, strength, and hope to help others reach higher ground. Few things bring me more joy than helping others find their way. For me, coaching is not about helping the masses. Coaching is about helping one person at a time. We all deserve someone to lift us up and give us their undivided attention.

If you feel like you are drifting or merely existing, and you are ready to grow and thrive, click here to schedule a consultation. I would love the opportunity to connect with you and learn how I can help you actualize and achieve all your goals!

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The Difference Between Life Coaching and Counseling

January 5, 2019July 15, 2019 Kristy Mox

Life Coaching differs significantly from therapy or counseling — coaching centers around setting goals, taking action and accountability. The process is about discovering what moves you, setting goals you want to achieve, identifying obstacles holding you back, developing steps to help you move forward. The accountability part is what keeps your momentum going and ensures you actually achieve the goals you have set.

Coaching Helps You Thrive & Soar

Coaching is helpful for everyone, and often, it can complement therapy. Life Coaching picks up where treatment ends. Anyone with a desire to advance their career, cultivate healthy relationships, overcome addictions, improve wellness, and fitness levels would be ideal for Life Coaching. Coaching is key to any transition in life. CounselingCoaching

Counseling Helps You Heal

Therapy is designed to help you heal in addition to treat illness, disorders, and diseases of the mind. Counseling is a clinical relationship between a patient and a licensed therapist. A therapist assesses, diagnoses, and treats their patient. While treatment plans vary in frequency and duration, you should reach a point where you have healed, and are ready to move on.

Additionally, patient-therapist boundaries are more fixed and rigid. A life coach has the ability to be more open about themselves and communicate in a much different manner. In some instnaces your coach may communicate with you more like a peer—you meet on common ground.

What If I Only Need Career Coaching or Wellness Coaching?

While most coaches have niches, a certified Life Coach is qualified to coach in all aspects of life. Personally, I have extensive training in Recovery, Wellness, Nutrition, and Fitness, but at the end of the day, it’s all “Life Coaching”. That being said, my training and experience make me more qualified to help those with specific concerns and needs. The format is always about identifying your needs, addressing obstacles, creating action steps to achieve your goals and holding you accountable to ensure your success.

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Is Life Coaching Right for YOU?

If you are ready to soar, I would be honored to help you! CLICK HERE to schedule a free consultation to see how life coaching can work for you. You’ve only got one shot at life—isn’t it worth making it amazing? You deserve it!