Try Different—Not Harder

Often, when faced with a problem, we venture to solve it in a specific way. Usually “our way”.

When that doesn’t work, we typically continue trying to solve the same problem in the exact same way…only harder.

We get frustrated. We try harder.

We get more frustrated. We try way harder.

The whole approach is about as successful as crossing the finish line on a hamster wheel. The only way to stop is by hitting a wall or colapsing in defeat.

These valiant efforts take place in all areas of our lives, including relationships. It’s kind of like trying to fix a broken object with the wrong tools or fitting a square peg into a round hole. While you can roll up your sleeves, utilize a myriad of tools and apply relentless efforts to shape that square peg to fit into the round hole. However, the more fitting (pun intended) solution would be to insert said peg into its corresponding hole.

Yes, there are always times when it is appropriate to try harder. More often, the better route would be to let go, embrace acceptance and surrender. Miraculously the latter approach typically yields the desired results, without such an effort.

If something doesn’t work or doesn’t flow, maybe life is trying to tell you something. There is always a lesson to be learned in every life experience. Unfortunately, it isn’t always as glaringly obvious as a flashing neon sign.

Sometimes, the signs are subtle.

Sometimes when something is not working, that IS the sign!

…or NOT! Brains over brawn is an underrated approach!

If you find yourself struggling too much—Let Go. If you are venturing down a path of insanity by unsuccessful repeated efforts, you may be taking a wrong turn.

Learn to recognize when something isn’t working. Let go, and let the path reveal itself to you. Answers and solutions emerge more clearly in the still of surrender as opposed to furious efforts.

If you are feeling stuck and the answers have not become clear to you, I would love to help you gain clarity and insight. With the guidance of an experience Life Coach, you may discover that you are capable of far greater accomplishments than the thing you are relentlessly obsessing over.